Monday, November 21, 2011

The One Who Leaves

I'm trying to get some homework done at a coffee shop right now, but as usual something I was thinking about made me lose my focus. I decided to take a small break and read though some of the new articles on thought catalog since I haven't been on there in a while. After reading through a few of the titles, I finally came across one that sounded intriguing entitled It's Harder to be the One Who Leaves.

I've witnessed a number of friends and acquaintances who have stayed in relationships they've been miserable in, simply because they fear they won't find a better match, which is an awful reason. I've heard some of the most ridiculous justifications for their partners, too. Because of that, I realized I'd never want to be in a relationship that goes against my core belief system and overall happiness, when it should be more of a positive incorporation to my life, and less of a negative one. 

I can't let myself go off topic and expand on anything specific, but for me, it took a while for the shock of a particular past breakup go into full effect. The logical reasons for ending it seemed to disappear once things finally begin to settle in. Of course this is more applicable to long-term and serious relationships, but when you are the one who ended it, you are expected to be the stronger one. It's likely you won't get as much much sympathy compared to the one whose heart you broke, even if yours is broken in just as many pieces.

There are a multitude of thoughts and feelings that are difficult to communicate or to understand unless you've been in that particular position, some of which are discussed in this article. I felt this.

a few things to keep in mind:
-be thankful for the good times.
-don't look so regrettably at the closed door.
-you will be happy again, promise.
-to have something half-way is harder.